matters in Iraq, m, December 26, 2006 a b c d e "Dating: a tricky game for Chinese university women". Generally, during much of recorded history of humans in civilization, and into the Middle Ages in Europe, weddings were seen as business arrangements between families, while romance was something that happened outside of marriage discreetly, such as covert meetings. Parents will hire a matchmaker to provide pictures and résumés of potential mates. There was a report that sexual relations among middle schoolers in Guangzhou sometimes resulted in abortions. 126 British writer Henry Castiglione signed up for a "weekend flirting course" and found the experience helpful; he was advised to talk to and smile at everyone he met. After the movie, Finney and I took Helen home to her mother. 15 In contrast, writer Bibi van der Zee found dating etiquette rules to be helpful, and found that supposedly liberated advice such as "just be yourself" to be the "most useless advice in history." 125 She expresses frustration following fruitless.